Are you Existing or Living?

I wrote this a while back, shortly after a realisation I made that I was wasting my time existing and not really living. Luckily, I stumbled upon it recently and realised I fell back into the cycle of procrastinating and choosing not to really live. I’ve decided to give this another go and I’ve made a conscious decision to live, a result of that new decision was bringing back TheSohoSister, and a few other things, you’ll begin to see as time goes by. 

But I’d like to know, what stops you from really living, and what do you think is the best way to get up, get going and stop procrastinating.

There are so many things I want to do before I die

A long list of things, that I can’t say out because some make me too shy

I want to fall in love with someone who loves me the exact same , visit the famous Indonesian temples, see the Great Wall of China, see the pyramids, look a dolphin in the eye, have a kid, build an empire, make life worth while. 

The mistake I make and we all do, is that we act like we have all the time in the world.

I see a 21 year old girl who chooses to get married and have a kid and I ask why? 

And she responds  “why are you procrastinating, you’re not going to live forever!” 

So I stare at her blankly, speaking with my eyes saying “we’re young, its not like we’re going to die tomorrow”. Totally getting the look, she responded, “do you know when the end reveals itself ….. never!”

Only 2weeks ago, I saw a cousin of mine who I hung out a lot with back in London,

 we were making jokes about the fact that since we both stepped foot in Lagos, our turn up relationship has ended

The one thing I didn’t know was that I should’ve acted on that joke the next morning as soon as my alarm went off,

because as of the 30th of June, he was no more. 

And that makes me want to be different, different to the innermost core.

I believe in going. I believe in getting. Action, making, believing, loving, owning, never regretting. I believe in all those things that people choose not to believe in.

I believe in living and I’m making a conscious decision to do that, Live!

 Image shot by Feyi Adesanya

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The sequence of your dreams and how you act them out also make living, life’s responsibilities and the choice to LIVE a little more complex than when all is borne from emptiness. . . Perhaps? I hear myself making excuses for my procrastination. Consider this?


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